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Wednesday, August 24, 2011

We apologize for the lengthy delay in posts.  The Christiansen family has had a lot to deal with these past 2 weeks.  We went in last week and I was induced on Monday night.  After a long 3 days, Jude Avery Christiansen was still born into this world - a beautiful, and amazing little boy.  He passed during the delivery which was probably better for us anyway.  He was a big boy -- 1 lb 2.5 oz and 10.5 inches long!  We spent time with him and then had to say our goodbyes for now.  Avery was not there and she is none the wiser, although we plan to make Jude a part of our lives moving forward. 

A friend told me I was lucky we produce such strong kids...Jude hung around for 22 weeks to make sure we knew that he was strong enough to take care of Avery from Heaven.  I really hope she is right.  I guess if you've learned anything about this family in the last 20 months it's that we fight - full blown, from our head to our toes.

We also said goodbye to our nanny Taylor, who has been a tremendous help to us in the last 8 weeks while Sharon has been out.  We wish her the best in all that she does in this big world.  Starting Monday we will be shifting tactics once again and Avery will start going to a friends house during the week while we work.  We'll be changing up her therapy routine a bit but she really is doing well.  Her favorite word is still "no" and she was able to stand alone for almost 30 seconds the other day at PT.  Not something we ever see, but they swear it happened.  Next week I will return to work, hopefully in a better state of mind and a little less sore than now.  Jeremy has been doing his best to keep me comfortable, stable, and calm - all the while wrangling a 2 year old that throws her hand in your face and tells you "no".  Overall, I think he's hanging in there. 

There have been a lot of tears this last week...uncontrolled and random at times, but my little girl always knows how to wipe my face and give me a kiss to make it better.  If she only knew how effective that is for me...



  1. This grandma told you Avery would be there to help you, and be there for you. Think of you all often and wish the best for you all. Sounds like Avery is ready for her new venture, and will do just fine. Stay strong. Hugs and prayers to you all.
    Just another Grandma

  2. Just a little note to let you know that we are praying for you all daily and are here for you! XOXO The Smith Family

  3. Hi Christiansen Family - A friend of mine gave me your blog to read as she was telling me about your family. I cannot even imagine the difficulties you have been through these past couple of years BUT I do know God is with you throughout each trial and tribulation. Although we may not understand WHY God allows us to go through such difficulties, we do know that every circumstance has the ability to reveal God's amazing character in a new way if we look to him to bring us through each storm. I just wanted to offer some HOPE that God is truly with your amazing family and will continue to guide you on this journey.

    John 14:27
    Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

    Isaiah 41:10
    So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

    Deuteronomy 31:6
    Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

  4. To tag onto the previous person's post: The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Psalm 34:18

  5. As I expressed to another close friend when they lost their first child after only a few days on this earth, I want to share with you the same thing. I do not believe God creates tragedy for the sake of purpose; instead, He has an ability to create purpose where tragedy exists. I pray that through this difficult, undeserved journey, God creates purpose for you and your beautiful family.

  6. Jennifer and Jeremy, I am so glad that you are starting to heal after such an unexpected loss of your baby boy,, Jude. I pray that with each passing day your joy will grow and your grief will soften. You have been through so much...
    You are a loving family.
    Lots of love,
    Auntie Lori and Uncle Bob